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Post on: Friday, October 23rd, 2009 at 3:59 pm
Category: holidays, life | Tags: Friends, Halloween

So my Halloween movie night/party is tomorrow night, and yet I still don’t really have a head count on how many people are coming. Sent out 15 invites and got five replies back, the other ten waited until I called them their replies were they might be there. A “might” sounds like I’ll come if nothing else pops up.

Is it me or people these days just rude? I’m sorry but if someone is taking the time to plan/host an event, make handmade invitations (that were snail mailed) wouldn’t it be curtness to reply back with an answer then not at all? Both VancityBuzz and Duane think that our generation has that attitude of I’ll show up to your party, if you got something I want …. aka free beer and free wifi. Instead of going because its your friend who’s hosting it.

One of my best friends mentioned to me last night “If someone don’t reply back/said yes but never show then they get put on the do not invite list”. I think I’m gonna start falling that rule as its a good rule to go by. Why should you end up in tears over them being rude. I also think I need some new friends.

What do you do when you got people who don’t rsvp?

October 23rd, 2009 at 4:06 pm

Frithjof said,

sorry to hear about your experience. I had a similar incident last summer but I thought I just had different expectations being from a different culture and all that….
What gets me is the fact that it seems that the people leaving you hanging like that are likely the ones complaining that “nothing is going on”.

Hope you have extra much fun with your friends that do show up and surely look forward to your party. I’m sorry I’m so far away…. Guess I would dress up as a crazy dragon boat steerer :pump3: oh wait, that’s not a costume…
October 23rd, 2009 at 6:16 pm

Holly said,

Wow, that is pretty rude!

I had a similar problem with my 21st last year, although thankfully most of people who didn’t respond were friends of my mother’s (who I let her deal with) and one was someone I had a wrong address for, and who didn’t reply because they never received the invite (which was my fault for wrongly addressig it). I hope you have a good night anyway!
October 23rd, 2009 at 9:41 pm

Kimm said,

@Frithjof: Its not a costume party..

@Holly: My best friend told me we are gonna have a blast even if its just the two of us.
October 24th, 2009 at 5:21 pm

Meredith said,

I don’t host parties, so I can’t say I’ve had that problem. But I do agree that it is quite rude not to RSVP, especially when someone took the time to make you an invitation. Maybe you should be on the lookout for some kinder friends. ;)
October 27th, 2009 at 6:02 pm

VancityAllie said,

Totally true.. I`m struggling with the same sort of thing for my party coming up as well.

At least have the courtesy of replying back `No`… or at the most basic level, just say you are not attending on Facebook instead of not replying at all

*sigh*

Anyway, what I`ve realized over the years is… you learn who your true friends are, and who are the ones you can count on, and you just don`t worry about everyone else
October 30th, 2009 at 1:06 pm

Tess The Bold Life said,

I’m 55 so I’m certainly not your generation but mine is no better. I think it’s more than rude but haven’t quite come up with a name for it yet!

I won’t bitch about young people because I think it’s across the board. I seem to get a new set of friends every decade. So being 29 you may need some new friends. Also I’ve learned not to take anything personally. Both help!

Have fun at your party anyway! Enjoy the ones who come.

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